Happy Holidays

I want to take a moment to wish each and every one of you a Happy, Healthy, Holiday Season. I also want to thank you for giving me the opportunity to be of service to you. I have been online for a little over 10 years now offering services such as anger management, therapy, counseling, parenting classes and I have have enjoyed every moment working with you. If you are thinking about making some changes in your life, 2013 seems like a good year to start. Everything is possible when you are determined to make change. If I can help you in that process come to or visit Make 2013 the year of change! Happy Holidays, Kathy

Is online anger management just as effective as face to face anger management classes?

Anger management classes online are just as effective as face to face anger management classes. What is important to understand is that you are doing the work in the class. The anger management class is not working for you, you are working the program. You can go to face to face anger management classes and not put much effort into making changes just as you can take an online anger management class and just skim by to get a certificate. The real question to be answered is; are you ready to work and make changes in your life? If the answer is yes, then you need to decide what type of "learner" you are. Do you like to have face to face interaction with someone or do learn better on your own going through the material that is important to you? Most people have told me that they like the online approach because they can spend time on the areas where they need the help and speed through areas of the program that aren't as important to them. Many have also told me that they like the online anger management class because they can go through the material when they are relaxed and able to concentrate. There are no parking issues, no loss of work or school. Whatever you decide, you need to be ready to make changes and then take whichever approach you choose seriously. Anger Management Classes

What do you mean that anger is a secondary emotion?

Most of us do not walk around feeling angry for no reason. Usually something happens in our day that causes us to have an emotion and if we don't take care of that emotion or put some meaning on the emotion, it can turn to anger very quickly. So what can we do about having run away emotions, thoughts or anger? If you feel as though you are having anger for no reason it is time to start paying attention to your feelings, thoughts and emotions. Tune in to yourself and monitor your feelings and thoughts. Journal. Write down your thoughts. When you sense some discomfort because of a feeling, try to trace it back to where it started and put some meaning on it. It is easier to trace if you have a journal to refer back to. For example: You wake up on Monday morning and start the normal routine to get ready for work. You start to think about how nice the weekend was and how much you really hate your job. You also start to think about your lazy co-worker who seems to pile all of his work on your desk. Then your thoughts turn toward how you are not where you want to be in life yet and you should be further ahead by this age. You should be running the company instead of your boss! You then sit down and get interested in an article in the newspaper and before you realize it you are now running 15 minutes late for work. You rush to the car without your lunch or your paperwork for the day and start racing to work. You find yourself in a traffic jam and now you realize you are going to be really late. You get to work over an hour late and sitting on your desk is a pile of work that should have been done by your co-worker yesterday, but today he has called off sick. You hit tilt and start throwing things and every time someone comes up to you that day becomes an irritant to you. You are nasty and short with your co-workers and they decide to stay far away from you today. You are just boiing over with anger and contempt for your co-worker. Are you really angry? Did you wake up angry? Are you an angry person? Let's trace this back. Take out a piece of paper and let's write down some thoughts and feelings: it is Monday (a hard day to get back into the grind for most), weekend fun is over, hate my job, lazy co-workers, too much work, should be further ahead in my life. Those are negative thoughts that are forming. If you were paying attention you might talk to yourself at this point to calm down the negative thoughts: I don't like my work, but I have a job and in this economy that is a lucky break. My co-worker is lazy, but basically he is a good guy. I will do my work and if I feel like he is taking advantage I plan to confront him and let him know how I feel. I might not be exactly where I thought I would be right now, but I am working on my goals. I have a roof over my head and I am making ends meet. I will continue to strive for my goals. This really isn't so bad. That is rationalizing your thoughts and keeping yourself in the truth and the facts. You are not allowing yourself to advance into the secondary emotion of anger. You are still having the feelings, but you are not allowing them to snowball and turn toward anger. If you would like to have more help with your emotions or how to handle anger, visit us at

How can I get a jump start on learning about my anger?

The first thing about starting anger management is you have to be ready to make some changes. You are the most important element in changing your life and your behavior. One thing that I offer for those who want to get a jump start on learning about their anger is an anger evalution. By taking the anger evaluation, you will learn how you handle your anger, what angers you, if you are chronically angry or if you are situationally angry and much more. By obtaining that information we can make an anger management treatment plan specifically for you and your needs. http://www.angermanagementonline.com http://www.angerevaluation.com