Anger Management Online Classes

What if anger management doesn't work for me?

2011-07-15T07:42:00.000-07:00

I get this question a lot and I always want to turn it around and ask, "what if you don't work in anger management"? Like anything else in life, you reap rewards according to what you put in and how hard you work at something.

Every human being, at one time or another, has mishandled their anger. Everyone has behaved in a way that they are not proud of and wished they handled things differently. That is all part of being human.

The key to human behavior is to look at it and learn from it. In every situation is a learning experience. Most people come to anger management for a reason. Many people are sentenced by the legal system and some are given an ulitmatum by family members or spouses. I always tell my clients that it doesn't matter what brings you to anger management, what matters is where you go from here.

You have a choice with your anger and behavior. You have a choice to learn and grow every day if you are willing. Anger management gets a bad rap because most people expect anger management to "work for them" and put very little effort into their own life. You need to work anger management or it won't work for you.

Get into a good anger management class. Or, consider anger management through a counselor or therapist. Then it is up to you to get active in changing your life. A counselor doesn't change your life. A class won't change your life. You change your life. I get many people at angermanagemnetonline.com who when finished with the program send me emails of thanks and tell me how great the class was for them. Of course I am always happy to hear of good experiences in my anger management class, but the truth is the client is the one who changes his life. A class or counselor can be a catalyst, but the client is the one who works the class and I am quick to give the credit right back to them.

Anger management does work, but you have to work anger management. Get motivated to make changes in your life. Get excited to implement new techniques and new challenges in your life. The investment in anger management gives you many good, worthwhile returns.

My child is required to take an aggression evaluation. What is involved?

2011-06-07T07:51:00.000-07:00

Hello,

The aggression evaluation is set up for children 9-18 who are showing signs of aggression either at home or school. Some children only seem to display aggression at school and are perfectly fine at home. Others tend to be more aggressive at home than school.

The point of finding out where that aggression is taking place is to better understand and get to the deeper root of the problem. If the aggression is happening at school there could be a learning disability, problems with other children such as bullying, etc. If it is happening at home there could be friction in the home with siblings or between parents, unstructured home life etc.

The aggression evaluation that I use requires the teacher to fill out a portion of the evaluation and a parent to fill out a portion of the evaluation. With information from the school and parent I am able to determine where the aggression is happening and then work together with you to figure out a solution. Go to aggressionevaluation.com for more information.

My teen is showing signs of anger and frustration. What can I do?

2011-04-20T18:15:00.000-07:00

We all know the teen year are very tough years. Even more challenges face our teens today than ever before. Teens have it tough.

Talk to your son or daughter. I know what you are thinkng.... "have you ever tried to talk with a teenager?" I know that talking to teens can be difficult, but I challenge you to sit down and talk with him/her. They might give you a rough time and act like they don't appreciate your conversation, but they do. Know what is going on in your teen's life. Know their friends. Know their schedule. Know where they are at all times.

Provide structure and rules in your home and stick with those rules and guidelines. Teens are secure when they know the rules. They might not always like the rules, but they do appreciate your rules.

If you feel as though you are getting no where with your teen, there are plenty of resources in your community for counseling and therapy. Teens will sometimes open up to someone other than yourself. That's okay. You don't always want to talk openly to a loved one about what is bothering you either. Nothing personal.

Or, you might try an online anger management program such as angermanagementonline.com. We have a teen class that is completely online and affordable. Teens love the online format. They like the online format because they can be comfortable to express themselves in an environment that is anonymous. No one is judging them and there are like minded people taking the class.

You might also consider an anger evaluation for your teen. An anger evaluation will get to the point of finding out if there is a true anger problem and get your teen on a treatment plan to successfully express themselves. angerevaluation.com

There is hope and help available. Don't be afraid to ask for help.

Question of the Week

2011-03-18T10:23:00.000-07:00

I want a family member to take anger management, but he won't. He says he is not angry and that taking anger management is a waste of time and that maybe it is me who is the problem. Trust me, it isn't me! What can I do?

Good question and a very tough question. If someone isn't willing to make changes in their life, trying to force change only makes you more frustrated. Working with someone who is unwilling to change is hard on families and relationships.

You might have already tried this, but schedule a time when you can both sit down. Talk from your heart. Let him know that his behavior is hurting you and your relationship and that is something you can no longer tolerate. Try not to let the conversation get heated. Stay on topic and tell him how you are affected and how much you want things to change. Play a very supportive role in helping him to understand that you will be with him through the change and that you can look at your own behavior too. Make changes together. Learning together means growing together.

For some men, who are in constant denial of their anger, we do an anger evaluation on them. You can read about it at angerevaluation.com. It is an anger evaluation you can take in your home and receive a detailed report. Sometimes people need to see those results in writing to understand the impact of their behavior. Sometimes the anger evaluation determines that better communication could solve the problem. The anger evaluation can show you the type of behavior used when angry and we can work on that particular behavior. There many different angles to work on with anger and trust me, no one wants to feel angry all of the time. The good news is no one has to feel angry and there is hope for change.

For some people who are in denial about their anger, an online anger management program is a good place to start. They remain in control and study anger management at their own pace and make changes on their own terms.

The best thing you can do tell your family member how his behavior is affecting you. Stop nagging for change. Change never happens through nagging. Be clear. Be assertive and stop nagging. For more information on this topic or help with anger management come to angermanagementonline.com and if your family member isn't willing to change, let's work with you to change so that you are living your best life.

Anger Evaluation for Children

2011-02-25T07:36:00.000-08:00

I feel as though my teen has an anger issue, but it seems like nothing helps. I have tried working with him and he still says there is nothing wrong and he is not angry. His actions speak louder (sometimes) than words. How can I know if he has a problem with anger and what can I do about it?

Teens years are tough if you can remember back. It is an incredible time of growth and maturing, teen peer pressure and now even more pressure to keep up with technology.

A place to start would be an anger evaluation. I provide an anger evaluation for children at angerevaluation.com. This is an easy evaluation that can be taken in home. It takes about 10-15 minutes to complete. You can send it back to me and I will interpret the scores and send back a written report. It is the first step to understanding anger and can jump start the treatment plan for your teen. When we know what causes anger or why someone is angry we can cut to the chase and work on those issues.

If you are interested in an anger evaluation for you teen, please visit angerevaluation.com and read through the material. Sign up and the anger evaluation will be sent out immediately. Once I receive the completed anger evaluation materials back and make the report I can make suggestions on how to start the process of helping your teen manage their anger. You might also want to consider an online anger management class. At angermanagementonline.com we have an anger management class for teens. Teens are very successful with online learning because they love being on the computer and it is really how they learn best. They enjoy learning at their own pace and having some say in their own treatment plan and learning goals.

If you have a teen who could benefit from either an anger evaluation or anger management class, please visit us at angermanagementonline.com or angerevaluation.com and get the process started.

Can anger management help couples?

2011-01-24T14:51:00.000-08:00

The answer is yes.

Anger management is more than simple "anger management." At angermanagementonline.com we go into all aspects of anger including the concept that anger is a secondary emotion. Something is happening first to cause discomfort and then comes the behavior which is often acted out in anger.

Anger can be very distructive to relationships. It breaks down communication. It breaks down intimacy. It makes the relationship feel unsafe.

Anger can be managed and relationships can improve when one or both partners understand the root of anger.

Angermanagementonline.com is an easy online anger management class that both of you can take on your own time and schedule.

Start learning anger management today. Start improving your relationship today!

Anger management support group online

2011-01-03T11:17:00.001-08:00

Looking for a place to go to express your anger? Looking for like minded people to talk to online about positive solutions of anger management?

Come to angermanagementonline.com and click on Join Our Anger Management Support Group. We want conversation regarding anger and now to improve lives by living in positive solutions. If we have a big enough interest we might even start some live discussion groups.

Come, join, invite your friends and family. Let's make it a safe place to discuss anger.

angermanagementonline.com

The Holidays Are Coming!!

2010-11-26T07:11:00.000-08:00

Yes, the Holidays are here and for many people it can be a very difficult time of year. The question I most often get this time of year is: How can I be around family and hold in my anger or feelings?

That's a tough one because for many people holidays bring up old wounds or bad past experiences with family members. I have had people tell me that they just do not want to go to their family's home for Christmas, but they feel guilty and go anyway. Not wanting to go some place and then going just because "you have to" is going to elevate your anger for sure.

A couple of things to consider when around family members:

1. Stay away from alcohol. Alcohol brings out angry feelings and it gives you the courage to say what is really on your mind. Getting something off of your chest that has been lingering for a very long time in theory sounds good, but not with alcohol as the stimulus. Anger management classes flourish during the holiday season because people get drunk, air out their feelings or even worse punch someone who "had it coming" for a very long time and it lands them in jail, court and anger management. If you don't have the courage to say it to them sober, don't say it to them at all.

2. If going to your family's home brings about horrible feelings or past memories that you can't deal with... don't go. If something is that bad don't set yourself up for failure by going somewhere to please someone else and feel miserable the whole time. Start your own tradition. Go to a friends house. Stay home with friends and family. If you have your own kids or partner start something new and fun with them. The Holidays are for everyone and feeling pressure to be somewhere that brings out the worst in you isn't fair to you or your family. Start fresh.

3. The pressure is going to be put on your for not going along with the family tradition. That's okay. You will be okay if someone disapproves of your choice. Stay true to your life.

4. With the economy most people are not able to spend as much as they would like and it brings up bad feelings and anger. Change your thinking. Think of the Holidays as a time to give thanks for what you do have. It isn't about what you don't have. We live in the greatest country in the world. We have freedom of choice. When you go into a store there are aisles and aisles of choice. We can go any where we want to go. We are free. That is a huge gift. Thanks to our Military we are free and safe. Don't worry about what you can't do. Give thanks for what you can do.

Remember this Holiday season to do what pleases you. Stay safe, sober and thankful for all of your blessings.

Happy Holidays and Merry Christmas!

If you would like more help or tips in anger management come to angermanagementonline.com and learn how to get through the tough times with new anger management skills.

I can't seem to control my anger or emotions. Should I be able to control my feelings?

2010-10-13T06:57:00.000-07:00

The answer is yes. The problem may be that you are not catching your emotions soon enough. You may be noticing your anger only when you are more escalated so it feels like your emotions are out of control. Or, you may not know exacly what you are feeling or experiencing. It is common for people to say they don't know what they are feeling.

The best way to understand your emotions is to journal. Write down your feelings on a daily basis and try to track your emotions. You have to pay attention to yourself. In this busy world we are all on the fast track, but that also means we are not paying attention to our mental health.

1. Slow down. Try to find some time in the day for yourself to think and refresh.
2. Journal about your emotions. Try to understand what you are feeling. A lot of times it won't be anger, but another emotion that quickly turns to anger.
3. Add structure into your life. Get up at the same time. Go to bed at the same time. Eat healthy meals.

If you would like to know more about anger and how it is affecting your life come to angermanagementonline.com and join one of our many anger management programs.

There are so many anger management programs out there. How do I choose?

2010-07-22T04:26:00.001-07:00

Good question. There are many anger management programs out there and going through all of them can be very time consuming. Some of the important things to look for is if the person is licensed. Courts look more favorably on a program if the person running the program is licensed. Can you contact the owner and speak to him/her? How long has the program been in business? Are the instructors certified in anger management facilitation? Do they associate themselves with professional organizations in their field? Do they have an email address to ask questions? Does the anger management program provide an About Us on the site? Do you get to know who is on the other side of the screen teaching you?

Does paying more for the class mean you are getting more quality? No. There are many quality programs out there such as AngerManagementOnline.com who strive to bring a quality program at a fraction of the cost. Angermanagementonline.com has been online since 2002 at the same price point in an effort to make affordable anger management available to everyone. If you are looking for an anger management program take your time and go through the key points above. Email and call if you have questions. Get all of your questions answered so that you feel comfortable in learning anger management.

What if I am not court ordered. Can I still take this anger management class?

2010-06-07T05:25:00.001-07:00

The answer is yes. Everyone is welcome to take our anger management class. Our class is developed with everyone in mind not just court ordered guidelines. We have been online teaching successful anger management skills since 2002 and before that we tested our material in face to face programs. Anger management works when you are ready to learn and grow in your life.

There are so many anger management programs! Which class do I take?

2010-04-14T08:45:00.000-07:00

You are right. There are plenty of anger management programs out there. The best thing I can suggest is to read through the website material. Which material feels most comfortable to you? What is your learning style? By that I mean do you like to read to learn? Would you rather listen to tapes, CD's? Do you have a high powered computer to deal with flash applications or heavy programs? How do you learn best? Personally, I am a reader. I like to see what I am learning. I also like things delivered in a simple, clean and concise manner. Others like to listen. It depends on your personal learning style.

In developing angermanagementonline.com I decided to keep it simple. There is already enough stress by just having to take an anger management class.... why add to it? My programs are to the point. No beating around the bush. We want you to get your certificate to fulfill your requirement, but we also care very much that you are successful in anger management. We use the most researched method of teaching anger management. Your computer requirements are minimal and you don't need a computer science degree to get through this class. Because I like things simple I give things to you in a simplified manner.

Those who have taken AngerManagementOnline.com enjoyed the experience. We also offer a free support group online angermanagementonline.ning.com for those who want to stay connected to our program. If you need anger management come to angermanagementonline.com and see what we have to offer. Email any questions you may have.

Most of my anger comes from an ex-spouse. How can I learn to get along for the sake of my kids?

2010-04-06T08:35:00.000-07:00

Even the thought of communicating with a co-parent may elicit a deep sigh. Many of you can’t imagine having a conversation with a co-parenting without delving into nasty banter or button pushing. You may have tried to be rational and your co-parent is vested in letting you know everything you did wrong or how unhappy he or she is feeling both in the past and present.

It is hard to believe but many separating or divorced parents seem to relish there miscommunication with each other. The renewal of old angry feelings keeps the issue of who has power over whom alive and keeps that familiar connection going. Using negative strategies can make you feel strong and in a one-upmanship position over your co-parent. Sound familiar?

You can get into all of the “why’s” and “how’s” of your failed relationship, but it won’t serve any purpose in getting on with your life and getting into a position of co-parenting your children. You don’t have to resolve all of your feelings regarding your former partner in order to be an effective co-parent. But you do need to make every effort to communicate well. It is in your lines of communication that much of your children’s lives get lived.

Embrace the idea of good communication and keep these goals in mind when communicating with your co-parent:

1. Make clear arrangements regarding your kids.
2. Model good negotiating and problem solving for your kids.
3. Make life easier.

When communicating with a co-parent keep your eye on the prize. You are doing this for your kids. If your co-parent is in the habit of goading you, don’t take the bait. Develop a deaf ear and remember that you aren’t trying to make the relationship work any longer. You are working toward a new role of co-parent in the best interest of your children.

You can’t control the other parent, but you can control yourself. If things are heating up take a step back, cool off before answering the phone, change the subject and remember to stay out of the dance. Remember, your kids are listening.

Being a good co-parent sometimes requires putting on blinders. Don’t let yourself get riled up by every little thing. Some people are expert manipulators and they know just how to push your buttons, but you have a choice in how you respond. Talk to yourself, let it go, drop it and walk away. Tell yourself that this is not about your co-parent. It is about your kids.

Question: Do I even need anger management?

2010-03-20T09:27:00.000-07:00

If you are asking the question you are probably in need of some help. The second part of the question might be... where do I start?

I really think everyone can benefit from anger management. It isn't just about anger management or bad behavior. Anger management is a whole treatment plan about getting yourself into a new, healthier place. Let's face it... no one has perfect behavior.

If you are feeling as though you could use some help with your behavior it is time to get the help you need. There are many ways to get help for your emotions. Online programs are usually self paced. For some people self paced online programs are the answer. You work through the program on your own with the guidance of a trained facilitator. AngerManagementOnline.com was the first online anger management program and is still a one of kind program for anger management. There are also many therapists and counselors who specialize in anger management face to face or via the telephone. You need to figure out which way is best for you. How will you learn best? Is a group setting better for you? One on one? Face to face? Online and anonymous? It really is about your style.

If you are interested in free support group online check out angermanagementonline.ning.com. For online anger management check out angermanagementonline.com.

If you need help, get it. Help is always available.

Question of the Day: How do I know if I have an anger problem?

2010-02-11T11:06:00.000-08:00

I get this question a lot when someone thinks they may have an issue with anger. If you are asking the question, my first thought is there is probably something going on in your life that is making you question yourself and your behavior.

A few quick questions to ask yourself:

Are others in your life telling you that you have a problem with anger?

Are co-workers asking you to look into your behavior?

Do you feel okay about the way you represent yourself in the world?

Do you think there are better ways to handle your emotions, but you aren't sure where to begin?

These are just a few of the many questions you can ask yourself to better understand if you need help managing your anger.

Anger management is really about so many things. People are often surprised when they take my anger management class and they realize that anger management is more than just learning new behaviors.

Because anger is a secondary emotion we know that something is usually happening first to trigger the anger. That is the key component in anger management. What is happening first to create the secondary emotion of anger?

If you are questioning yourself if you may have a problem with anger then you probably could learn some new ways of looking at your emotions and behavior.

Find an anger management class that you feel comfortable taking. It could be an online class or face-to-face counseling. Which ever learning style is better for you is the right place for you. At angermanagementonline.com we offer several different online classes as well as face-to-face and telephone counseling. We also offer an anger evaluation you can take in your own home.

If you are asking yourself about anger chances are you need help. Reach out and find the help you need so that you can grow in your life and move on in positive solutions.

Transitioning Your Children Between Two Homes

2009-12-28T19:34:00.000-08:00

How to pick up and drop off your children from your ex-spouse.

Transitioning children after a divorce is a tough thing. You don’t want to see the ex, yet you are curious to see him/her. You want to hurt the ex because of the misery they put you through, but your kids are there listening and watching your every move. How do you act when you drop off your kids? Do you say hello? How can you avoid feeling awkward, but still show your kids you can be a good ex-partner and a great parent?

If tension is high and tempers are flaring, arrange to have pick ups and drop offs at a day care, school or a neutral third party to avoid contact with the other parent until things get more peaceful. Regardless of where you meet, prepare your children for their transitions between homes. Let them know in advance which days are dad’s and which days are mom’s.

On the transitions days try to follow a routine that’s predictable and comfortable. Be mindful of what you say on your way to the transition and during the transition. If you feel your anger level start to flare, take a few deep breathes and back away. There should be no fighting or adult issues when you transition children. If you have things to discuss with your ex do it at a different time, through email, text or phone calls, but not when you are dropping off your children. Children do not like conflict and will want to avoid changing homes if it means mom and dad are “just going to fight.”

If you slip up and start to argue or fight during the transition, remind your children that adults have a hard time adjusting to divorce too, and that they may still be showing their anger or sadness through arguing and bad behavior. Kids like to know that adults are human too and they make mistakes. But if you shove your feelings under the rug and pretend like it didn’t happen it will leave your kids feeling confused and not sure if they can trust your behavior.

There will be times when things are forgotten during the transition either on purpose or mistakenly left behind. Remember, this is not a perfect world, life happens; some forgetfulness, some lateness, some changes in schedules, and other unforeseen problems are bound to occur. Adopt an “I can handle it attitude” and move on. Remember, this is about your kids. You are not married to the same partner anymore so it all about your children. Make them comfortable to go between homes and they will enjoy the process much more.

If you would like more information on parenting, parenting classes or therapy, please visit us parentingclassonline.net .

Anger Management and De Stressing the Holidays

2009-11-30T09:19:00.000-08:00

At this time of the year I get asked the same question over and over: Why do I see others running around enjoying the Holidays and I can't seem to find any joy! Believe it or not the Holidays are not happy times for many people. While some people jump around feeling giddy with expectations and are willing to run themselves ragged partying, others are feeling down and blue. You might ask how can anyone feel down around the Holidays?

The Holidays bring up a lot of feelings for many people which are not joyous. They may have lost a family member, old childhood wounds surface, faced with too many expections causing anger and depression. The list could go on and on, but just know that if you are not feeling overly excited about the Holidays... you are not alone. Holidays can be the best of times and the worst of times.

One way to take down the Holiday stress is to lighten up on expectations, set boundaries and know when to say no. Try to understand that other people are feeling joy, but you can have your feelings too. It's okay to have your feelings and it is okay for others to find joy.

Take the stress down a notch this year.

Expectations: Figure out what is really important to you. Ask yourself: What feels good to you? By that I mean if running around to every single party is stressing you out and you are not finding any joy in participating... limit the number of parties you attend. You can say no. People will get over it. Family will even get over it in time.

One thing I hear a lot from adult clients is they really don't find any joy in going home to their parent's home. There is chaos, fighting, and arguing that may bring back bad, old childhood feelings. Instead of forcing yourself into that situation stay home and start new traditions with your own family. Taking one year off to find your old Holiday joy is worth it!

Allow others to help you: You can't do it all. Delegate is the word over the Holidays. Have family gatherings, but don't provide all of the food and entertainment. Ask each family member to bring a dish or favorite game. If you don't find joy in it.... don't do it.

Agendas: Don't have hidden agendas or plan big surprises. Big surprises are fun to plan, but they only add more stress on you and if they are not well received they add stress on everyone. Keep it simple. State your plans. Tell people the time and where to go. Who comes, comes. Who doesn't come.... that's okay. Maybe they are finding their own joy too.

Don't engage with difficult family members: It seems that the most difficult of family members surface during the Holidays. Don't allow yourself to get sucked into negativity. Remain pleasant, but detach yourself from the situation.

The whole idea of the Holidays is to make them more meaningful, but less stressful. Know your limits. Set boundaries and if it doesn't feel good, don't do it. Start new family traditions that you can enjoy with your family. The most important thing during the Holidays is that you have a new season of peace, love and family warmth.

Anger Evaluation

2009-10-31T17:30:00.000-07:00

What is an anger evaluation and why might you take one?

An anger evaluation is a great place to start when trying to understand your anger and how you express your angry feelings. A loved one might be telling you that you have a problem with your anger. Someone at work may be requesting that you take a look at your angry behavior. How do you look at yourself and your anger and then try to make changes if you aren’t even sure if you have an anger management problem at all?

Getting involved in an anger management program is a great place to wind up, but how do you get to the depth of your anger and understand the key areas that you need to look at to make changes in your behavior? How can you make changes quickly and efficiently if you don’t know what to change? An anger evaluation will tell you exactly where your problem areas are and how you can move forward to change them.

At http://www.angerevaluation.com we offer an anger evaluation that can be taken in the privacy of your own home. We send you the materials and you take the evaluation whenever you want. You send it back to us and we will analyze your evaluation and let you know exactly where your problem areas in behavior are and how to make changes.

We measure two major components – state and trait anger. State anger is defined as a psychological emotional state or condition marked by subjective feelings that vary in intensity from mild irritation or annoyance to intense fury and rage. Trait anger is defined in terms of individual differences in the disposition to perceive a wide range of situations as annoying or frustrating and by the tendency to respond to such situations with elevations in state anger.

Our anger evaluation is designed for adults only and is analyzed by licensed therapists. After you receive the results of your evaluation, we can make referrals for further help or if you are interested in an online program we would refer you to http://www.angermanagementonline.com AngerManagementOnline.com is a division of Center of Solutions, LLC.

Anger and Your Health

2009-10-23T07:11:00.000-07:00

What happens to your body when you feel angry?
By Kathy Garber
When you experience anger your body goes into a fight or flight response. Chemicals are released into your bloodstream to prime you up for the fight or help you flee the situation. These powerful chemicals cause your body to undergo extreme changes.
Breathing begins to increases and blood is detoured away from the internal organs you don’t use in a fight and shunts it to your muscles for strength.
Your pupils dilate causing your vision to sharpen and your awareness intensifies.
Your rational mind is disengaged and your thoughts become distorted.
You are now in your anger attack mode and ready to fight.
The fight or flight reaction gears you up for battle, however most times there really is no battle to fight.
When you face real dangers in the world, this fight or flight response is invaluable to your survival, but when you are in a constant state of fight or flight day after day your health can begin to suffer. The powerful chemicals accumulate and make your body pay a price for being in a constant high energy state.
People with chronic anger are more likely to have suppressed immune systems.
Chronic anger can cause gastrointestinal problems such as irritable bowel syndrome and ulcers.
Chronic anger can lead to heart attacks and strokes.
Chronic anger affects your blood pressure.
If you decide that you are tired of being in a high energy state without a cause, join AngerManagementOnline.com and learn new ways to calm yourself before your health begins to suffer.

Anger Facts

2009-10-15T15:42:00.000-07:00

Just the facts!By Kathy Garber
Anger is one of your emotions, along with happiness, sadness and fear.

Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy emotion that varies in intensity.

Anger is a reaction to an inner emotion and not a planned action.

Anger is considered a secondary emotion. Meaning something usually triggers a bad thought or feeling and you begin to feel angry.

Anger can also be caused by fear, stressful situations and fatigue.Worrying or brooding over personal problems can cause anger.Repeated bad thoughts over and over in your head can increase your anger’s intensity.

Anger can be an instant reaction from a single event or a response after numerous events.

Anger reduces stress and makes you feel temporarily powerful.

Anger is a learned behavior. We imitate how others handled anger.It is up to you on how you choose to handle your anger.

Do you want to continue imitating others and letting your anger fly, or do you want to create a happier place for yourself and those around you?

Don’t let anger control your life any longer.
Get started on a healthier path at AngerManagementOnline.com

What do we teach at AngerManagementOnline.com

2009-09-29T07:08:00.000-07:00

Student Participation and Certificate Requirements
The website at www.AngerManagementOnline.com is a distance learning environment that teaches:
Admitting and accepting responsibility for behavior.
Determining the root of anger causing emotions.
Quickly recognize anger and other emotions leading to anger expression. .
Recognize old patterns of undesirable behavior.
Identification of provocative emotions other than anger.
Identify and change unhealthy coping styles.
Ineffective patterns of communication (passive, passive-aggressive, aggressive).
Assertive Communication..
Boundaries.
Resolving conflict in a productive manner.
Relaxation techniques and time outs.
Positive self talk.
Commitment to healthy behavioral change.
Living in positive solutions.
Self awareness.
Thought stopping techniques.
Paying attention to the negative inner critic.
Patterns of negative self talk.
Patterns of negative thinking (filtering, black and white, over generalizing, mind reading)
Physical activity to release energy.
Road Rage.
Living in solution.
The website offers hundreds of pages of content in the form of ebooks, articles, discussion boards and chatrooms.
Distance learning is a relatively new form of learning and referral sources such as courts, probation departments and human resources want to know if this type of learning is as effective as “real world” classroom learning.
There is growing evidence in research literature that online learning is as effective or even more effective than traditional learning environments. Even though distance learning is still in its infancy, the preliminary information is showing that online learning is providing a cost-effective, rich and diverse means of learning for students.
Shouldn’t there be interaction or a human component for learning anger management?There IS a human component to this program. Our students interact with the facilitator through emails, through online chats and intensive work on the discussion board. The discussion board is continuously monitored by the facilitator.
Who created the program AngerManagementOnline.com?Kathy Garber, R.N./ B.S.N./ M.A., Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist has more than 20 years in the healthcare and mental health industry. She is an honorary member of the Sigma Theta Tau Honorary Nursing Society, a Diplomat of the American Association of Anger Management Providers, a Diplomat of the National Anger Management Association, a member of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, and Association for Conflict Resolution.Kathy has more than 20 years experience in the healthcare and mental health industry. She is an honorary member of the Sigma Theta Tau Honorary Nursing Society, a member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists and Association for Conflict Resolution.Kathy works as a Certified Anger Management Facilitator, Certified Mediator, Certified Parenting Instructor and Anger Management Evaluator. She works with Probation Departments, Human Resource Departments and psychotherapists across the United States. She works with divorcing couples in arranging successful co-parenting agreements. Kathy is the director of AngerManagementOnline.com and co-director of ParentingClass.net an online program designed for divorcing parents working toward resolution in co-parenting.
What Responsibilities Do Students Have In The Program?1. All students are required to keep a log of their participation in the program. 2. All students are required to read the program workbook Stop Anger, Be Happy (203pp). 3. All students are required to keep an emotions journal during their program. 4. All students must meet a time frame depending on the amount of hours they need for completion (10 Hours, 20 Hours, 30 Hours etc.) 5. All students must complete extensive work on the discussion board as outlined for the number of hours required. 6. Students are monitored in their participation by the facilitator. 7. Students cannot complete the program in one day. Students are bound by time frames depending on which program they are enrolled (10 hour, 20 hour, 30 hour etc.). 8. Students earn time by reading, contributing to discussion boards, talking with facilitators, quizzes and exams. 9. To receive a certificate of completion all students must complete the above mentioned and complete a comprehensive examination with at least 80%. 10. Students are required to complete a completion questionnaire when all assignments are complete. The facilitator will then do a complete review of their participation to determine a student’s eligibility. 11. Certificates are given out at the discretion of the facilitator. 12. Certificates are sent to students in PDF format to prevent students from faking certificates. Also, a copyrighted AngerManagementOnline.com logo is in the lower left corner of all correspondence. 13. Cheating through an anger management program can happen in any anger management program including face-to-face programs. Successfully cheating in AngerManagementOnline.com is very difficult. No system is perfect, but AngerManagementOnline.com makes a strong effort to make certain the people who say they are taking the program are actually taking the program. 14. Students are supplied with an affidavit form to be signed under penalty of perjury in the presence of a notary. They also receive a verification form where they attest that they are actually the one taking anger management.
Why Should I Refer People To AngerManagementOnline.com And Accept The Program As Satisfactory?Online education offers a variety of advantages over traditional forms of face-to-face programs: 1. Online programs are usually less expensive than traditional programs. This makes clients less resistant to take a program. 2. Programs are self paced (with restrictions) and can be tailored to the individual needs of the client. 3. Our material is written for all levels of education. The software is easy to use so that the client can dedicate time to actually learning instead of computer problems. 4. Facilitator to client interaction is increased in online learning. Often facilitators and clients speak on a daily basis. 5. Material is constantly updated. 6. Students learn through peer interaction. 7. Referring people to an online program takes away the following: “I can’t afford it” “I can’t take time off from my job” “I don’t have a babysitter” “It takes to much time to travel.” 8. Students are much more one on one accountable for their participation.
How was the curriculum developed?After doing individual therapy and anger management groups for years I began to understand what clients needed in an anger management program. The techniques used in this program were implemented first in a face-to-face program. I brought this program online as a means of offering affordable anger management and making clients more accountable for personal change. Making someone personally accountable to receive a certificate of completion is much different than sitting quietly in a room of people pretending to be interested. We help people get excited about changes their lives and living in positive solutions. We build self esteem and coach people to get excited about their lives. This is definitely not a passive program. This is a program of accountability.

Please feel free to visit www.AngerManagementOnline.com for further details. Or, email us at AngersAway@aol.com and anger@angermanagementonline.com I hope you will seriously consider our program as a valuable instrument in teaching anger management. We are dedicated to upholding the standards of the anger management profession.

Anger has been around forever.

2009-09-18T06:20:00.000-07:00

Anger has been around forever and that is not likely to change but you can!

The idea that you cannot control your anger or your behavior is a myth. You are in complete control of your daily life activities and your actions at all times. You make decisions, you go to work, you buy a car, you go to school, you marry, and you choose friends. The list could go on and on, but the point is you determine your lifes outcome.

Basically, you have the freedom to choose your path in life.One choice you may be struggling with in your adult life is “how” to manage and control your anger. If this struggle is ever present in your life, you are not alone. Many adults have problems with angry feelings because we are not taught how to handle the emotion of anger as children. If you cry or express sadness, everyone knows what to do, if you show signs of happiness, others join in, but what happens when you express anger? Does anyone say, “It’s okay that you feel angry?” How about anger as a child? Did anyone stand around and say, “Oh, that’s wonderful that you feel angry?”
As children, most of us were not welcome to experience or express anger. That statement is not to blame; it is to wake you up to the fact that as an adult, you have an obligation to yourself and others. Learn how to manage your anger now. Learn what is causing it and learn healthy new behaviors to replace the old ones that aren’t working for you anymore!
When you are ready to make some powerful changes in your angry behavior, come to AngerManagementOnline.com and begin your journey toward a happier life with others just like you.

Anger Is A Secondary Emotion

2009-08-10T07:39:00.000-07:00

Anger is a secondary emotion.

Emotions are a funny thing. We all walk around with a wide variety of feelings, thoughts and behaviors. Emotions can ride at the surface and we easily recognize them or they can remain hidden and we might not even know how they are affecting our lives.

Anger is an emotion with a wide variety of intensity. The physical effects of anger include rapid heartbeat, elevated blood pressure and increases in adrenalin.

Since anger is a secondary emotion something is usually happening first to make us feel uncomfortable. I am asked over and over how to recognize anger and I have put together a few simple exercises below that you can use to “check in” with yourself to monitor your behavior.

First, ask yourself… what am I feeling? Are you feeling happy, sad, hungry, angry, lonely, tired, shut down? Try to pinpoint what you are feeling. A healthy person has access to all of their emotions from joy to grief.

Next, try to get in touch with your emotions. We are all subject to emotions and if we are not in touch with what we are feeling we will soon become controlled by our emotions rather than us controlling our emotions. Try to figure out what emotion you are feeling. Remember anger is secondary so another emotion had to happen first to trigger your anger. Usually hurt is the primary emotion to anger.

Ask yourself questions: What am I feeling right now? If you are not sure, keep asking the questions. If you have trouble determining how you are feeling, try to describe the things that are going on in your life. Ask yourself what someone else might feel if they are going through the same experiences are you are going through.

Journal about your feelings and emotions so that you can become more aware of what you are feeling. Being able to revisit how you were feeling on a particular day can help in your ongoing process of getting in touch with your feelings.

Your emotions are an important of your life and if you are aware of what you are feeling you have put that information and energy to work for you.

If you are interested in investigating your feelings of anger, please join us at AngerManagementOnline.com where we are finding the answers together.

Your Negative Thoughts

2009-06-25T04:16:00.001-07:00

Often times people do not know the cause of their anger. They just know that they "feel" angry, but they cannot pinpoint why or the cause of their anger. Negative thinking can be the root of your anger or at least get the angry feelings started. We all know that we should think more positively and avoid negativity........ but how??!!!

An easy to learn technique is "thought stopping." Negative thinking can be stopped by teaching yourself to stop negative or fearful thoughts.

Thought stopping requires that you pay attention to your thoughts and catch them at a relatively low threshold. In other words, if you catch your negative thoughts when they are first starting it will be much more easy to rope them in than if you wait until you are ready to explode.

Every time you have an unwanted thought; stop it immediately and substitute a positive thought. You can use a favorite phrase to stop yourself from repeating negative thoughts or a lot of people simply say STOP to themselves to shift out of the negative thoughts. The minute you become aware of an undesireable thought yell STOP IT to yourself. Take a deep breath and think of a positive replacement.

Does this all sound too simple to be true? Maybe, but it really works. You can learn to control your mind and train negative thoughts to stay away. Thought stopping is a very powerful procedure developed by cognitive behavioral therapists. It takes time to first learn to pay attention to yourself and then stop your negative thoughts, but it is very necessary to break the negativity cycle.

Don't think your negative thoughts will disappear the first time you try this procedure. You have to be persistent, pay attention to yourself and practice, practice, practice. At AngerManagementOnline.com we teach negative thought stopping in all of our anger management programs.

Do you have an anger problem?

2009-05-13T09:52:00.000-07:00

Do you have an anger problem?

Are you wondering if you have a problem keeping your anger under control? Are others telling you that you have a problem and you don’t see it? Take a few minutes to answer the questions below to see if you could benefit from taking an anger management class.

I have been experiencing episodes of anger for at least the past 6 months.
Yes________ No ________

I experience anger much more often than those around me.Yes________ No ________

When I experience anger, my anger is:

More intense than most others _________ Less intense than most others _________
The same as most others ___________

When I experience anger, my anger seems to last: Longer than most people ________
Shorter than most people ________ The same as most people ____________

Because of my angry feelings, I have experienced:________________________

Damage to relationships with partners, children, coworkers or friends._______________
Problems functioning at work.________ Inability to handle difficult situations._________ Experiences with the court system.________ Health problems________

Dwelling on problems, worrying, guilt/shame.Angry feelings are keeping me from life goals.
Yes _________ No _________

I think I could be more successful in my life if I could have better control of my feelings.
Yes __________ No _________

There are no right or wrong answers to these questions. Only you can determine if you need help in managing your anger. If you decide that anger plays a bigger role in your life than you would like it to, do something about it. Come to AngerManagementOnline.com and start learning new techniques to manage your anger.

Is anger management a waste of time?

2009-05-11T18:35:00.000-07:00

Anger Management: Does it work or is it a waste of time?
By Kathy Garber
There has been much controversy in the past regarding anger management and its usefulness in changing old angry behaviors that have been around with most adults for a lifetime. Statistics are now starting to show the positive benefits of anger management with people who are actively involved in a quality program and practicing what they are learning on a daily basis. Anger does have a best part. The best part of your angry behavior is that you are in charge of it and you control its outcome.
You may be wondering what is so great about being in charge of your anger, after all it is causing you problems in your life. The reason I think being in charge of your own anger is a good thing is because you have the power to change it for the better. No one can tell you how to do it, you don’t need to buy something expensive to fix it, you just need determination and the desire to manage your anger. Anger management should be about you working on a specially designed program that is right for your life.
So many times people attend a structured anger management program that tells them exactly what to do and how to manage their anger. The problem with that philosophy of anger management is that one program does not fit all. Everyone’s needs are different and who likes to be told what to do or what is right for their own life?
That in itself can cause you to fail in anger management because you might not be able to comply with the program. Who is more an expert of you and your life than you are? The answers in anger management come from within you. They are there; they just might need some shaking up. If you are ready to learn about your anger, ready to make some changes that are right for your life, ready to practice what you are learning on a daily basis to make your life better; come to AngerManagementOnline.com and start the process.
You don’t have to wait any longer. No more excuses.